The fear of abandonment is universal. The problem is – we try to medicate that feeling with whatever gives us instant gratification (drugs, alcohol, food, television, sleeping, social media, shopping, etc.) 

Whatever that looks like, addiction can stem from an unhealed abandonment wound. And when you fail to take care of that wound, it can lead to self-sabotage. So how do we heal our abandonment issues?

On today’s episode, Duane speaks with Susan Anderson, founder of Abandonment Recovery, a program that helps people with numerous issues such as heartbreak, loss, self-sabotage, addiction, and compulsion. Susan shares her own story of how she got into this work of dealing with abandonment. Susan gives us an illustration of what abandonment looks like, how it impacts our life, and what we can do to overcome it.

Susan points out that overcoming abandonment is a doing process. Therefore, just knowing about it isn’t necessarily going to help you overcome the wound that may be negatively impacting your life. There needs to be action.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Why abandonment is universal
  • The correlation between abandonment and addiction
  • Loneliness as a huge adult trigger
  • Early abandonment vs. normal level of abandonment
  • Self-sabotage and the outer child
  • Forms of self-sabotage
  • The power of visualization

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